They just don't get it . . . .

I was just talking with a friend who lost her mom about 3 months ago. She had a bad "night" last night and was wondering if that was "normal." Well having lost my mom more than 7 years ago, I assured her that it was and that most likely that would not be the last time she would have a bad time. At least not for a long time. We discussed how the DH wasn't much help (granted he was an hour away) at the time. I recalled how it was hard on my marriage when my mom died and it wasn't until my DH's mom died that he began to realize the "process." And for him, it was VERY different. Can I just say to everyone that is still going through the loss of someone to please not hold it against someone who has not gone through it if they don't help much because they "just don't get it!" It's not just a "man" thing and I'm not being mean when I say that because I was there. . . . I didn't get it either before I went through it. This all brings me to a saying that I've seen on a sister CTMH consultant's tag line that says, "We go through what we go through to help others go through what we've been through." Hopefully because I have gone through it, I will be some sort of comfort to others that are going through it now. And with that I pray . . . . Father in Heaven, Comfort those that are in distress over the loss of a loved one. Help them to feel Your loving arms around them and to feel Your love and Your peace within. Help them to realize the hard times we go through will eventually help us comfort and support someone else at a time when we are ready. Lord, help us also to remember the one who has passed with kindness and love and to be able to forgive and let go of old wounds we may still be carrying. These things I ask in your gracious name. Amen.